In one of the peer coaching sessions, my coachee took a notepad and started scribbling her thoughts on a notepad.
It was a Zoom call. As time passed I became a little impatient.
I am supposed to ask questions as a coach.
I started wondering what is my role here?
Why I am even here if the coachee is taking so much time to think and arrive at answers on her own.
After 10 minutes, I started getting a little concerned.
I just waited like a curious parent observing his kid drawing a horse. Holding back his assumptions and thoughts around the five-legged horse that is slowly appearing on the canvas.
The silence was getting louder.
Alok, why don’t you interrupt? What value are you even adding here?
As we passed 15 min mark, she got some clarity and action items.
I asked what was the new realization?
She pointed out a couple of things that she needs to address before moving on to the next steps.
Sometimes you might feel you have nothing to offer in a conversation.
You are wrong, you can always offer your presence.
It could be any conversation with your friends or close ones. Just offer your presence. Show intent, curiosity, and patience to listen.
If you lend your ear to someone, that is a service too 🙂